Guide To Choosing The Best Strap-Ons

One of the best parts of a healthy relationship is both opening up to one another and becoming closer with your sexual fantasies. For some, using a strap-on it one of them. Whether it’s for pegging, double penetration, or just a bit of fun, bringing a new toy into the mix is always going to be exciting. But unlike the ‘standard’ toys out there, strap-ons come with a little more care and planning, but to help you achieve the best from your experience, we’ve written this helpful little guide.

How do strap-ons work?

A strap-on is a dildo that can be worn as a mimic to a penis. It gives the user the ability to penetrate if they usually can’t or add as a double penetration to male wearers. You can get them in a variety of styles and sizes depending on what you’re after, and most are interchangeable so you can work your way up to a bigger dildo if you wanted. You can even get strap-ons that are strapless, as well as some that vibrate; there is one for every need.

Why use a strap-on?

This is a question that’s usually asked by someone who has either never looked into using one, or someone whos against using one. Whatever their reason being there are plenty of reasons to use one.

The main reason is that it brings you closers with your partner. If this is a new experience for either of you then picking something exciting to try out will bring you so much closer than before. Putting your trust in one another and proving that is a massive relationship booster. Now we’re not saying that you need to buy yourself a strap-on to show you trust in one another, it could be anything that you jointly do, but we just happen to be talking about strap-ons! Doing something so intimate that requires communication with one another will do wonders for you both, it’s a pleasurable learning curve that will open up so many more possibilities for you and your partner. Strap-ons come with this preconception that lesbians only use them, but that’s wrong. They can also be used by males, for double penetration or if there a health conditions that make it difficult for intercourse. But also for pegging, where the woman will wear the strap-on and use it on their male partner anally. Regardless of who uses them, they are enjoyable if used correctly so below are some tips to make the experience as smooth as possible. 

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Different types of strap-on

Harnessed – This is the typical type that people will think of when they say strap-on. There are adjustable straps that go around the user’s waist through the legs and around buttocks, coming around at the front the base of the dildo and its holder should sit firmly at the front without too much movement if fitted correctly. If you do find the harness to be uncomfortable there are knicker strap-ons available; they just tend not to be as secure fitting but still work in the same way as the original. Most of the harnessed strap-ons have an O-ring attachment that the dildo sits in, that is help down by clips and straps. If the base of your dildo doesn’t accommodate for the size of the O-ring, then you can come into trouble, although a lot of dildos that are made explicitly for strap-ons do some with a suitable base.

Another type of harnessed strap-ons are Vac U Lock harnesses; these are a range of dildos, butt plugs, and other sex toys that can be attached to a particular type of harness, enable so much more pleasure in the bedroom. To use these types of toys, you’ll need a specific kind of harness that has a hollow base allowing for a secure attachment. The rest of the kit fits together as usual, and some kits also allow for both types to be used, although these are typically more expensive.

As well as the two mentioned above, you can also get hollow vibrating strap-ons that aren’t interchangeable but do vibrate for both partners, giving users a pleasurable finish. These can be used by a male wearer, where the penis is inserted into the dildo, as well as worn by a female where the padded base sits comfortably against the pelvis.

Strapless strap-on – It might have strap-on in its name, but this type is entirely strap-free. They come in the traditional double ended styles, or more if a bulb that sits inside being held inside by its shape with a penetrating end. These are designed to bring you closer with your partner and give you both a more intimate experience. Strapless strap-ons are made to be worn by a female as one end goes inside the vagina, while the penetration end can do inserted wherever you wish. Although strapless strap-ons tend to be longer and thicker in size, so best to be used by same-sex couples or for partners that are experienced in anal penetration.

Another strapless strap-on is the cock ring strap-on. These dildos are attached to the male wearer’s penis by using either a cock ring or cock and ball ring. Cock ring strap-ons made for double penetrative play, and usually, have a bullet vibrator inside the cock ring for added pleasure. The rings can add stamina and time onto you pleasure by adding slight pressure to the penis.

Tips for using a strap-on

Strap-ons aren’t one of the easiest toys out there to use if you’re a woman the likely hood of you being used to having something ‘down there’ is slim, so we’ve got a few tips for getting prepared and using.

Communication – Like with most things, communication is essential, but even more so when you’re participating in something that’s as intimate as using a strap-on. Talk to your partner about what you both want from using it, pick your strap-on together, so you both get a choice in size/style, and talk about what positions you’ll be trying. If you plan on using the strap-on of anal penetration, then make sure you both talk about taking that step together. We have a fantastic guide on trying anal and how to prepare for it which you can check out here.

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Do your research – Although you’re already doing this (you’re reading our article), you need to look more into what you want from this experience. There’s plenty of choices out there so make sure you look them up to see which one fits your desire.

Picking the right one – Once you’ve talked things through with your partner, and you’ve done your research its time to get shopping. What is it that you want from it? Do you want vibrations? A harness? Strapless? Shop about and find one that gives you exactly when you and your partner are after. We’ve found some of our favourites below which include a range of all the styles available.

Wearing it correctly – If you decide you wanted a harnessed strap-on, then you need to ensure its fitted correctly. Some have clips, some have O rings, and some have nothing, it all depends on what your personal preference. But one thing that is important is that it’s correctly attached and in position. There are plenty of videos out there that can help you, but also most harness kits come with instructions. You’ll only be able to get the strap-ons full potential if it’s fitted correctly, and that’s one thing you don’t want to miss out on.

Practise – Expect a few accidental pokes and clumsiness the first couple of times you use it as it’s going to take a few runs until you’ve got the movements and aiming correctly, don’t let a few mishaps put you off. Try wearing it outside of intercourse so you can get used to the weight and having it attached to your body. You’re also going to want to make sure it’s fitted correctly and its held in the right place, so wearing it around and changing positions will help ensure its correctly in place. The first time you use it we do recommend the recipient move onto the dildo rather than being penetrated as this allows them to find a comfortable position and angle, from then on you can start off slowly getting used to the thrusting movements needed.

Lubricant – Like with everything toy, a lubricant is essential for added sensual play, but with strap-ons it’s also crucial for general purpose, especially if it’s going to be used anally. The anus doesn’t produce any natural lubricant, so it’s so important to use a generous amount of lubricant when participating in any anal activity, this will ensure you don’t have any cuts or tears. As we’ve mentioned plenty of times, you need to ensure you use the correct lube for the correct material used to make the toy. You can find our guide to which lubricants to use here.

Strap-on positions

For beginners, using a position that allows the person being penetrated to be in control will make the whole experience a lot easier for you both. As the user of the strap-on doesn’t have feeling it will be hard to tell how deep and fast you can go, so remember to leave the control to your partner.

From behind – We don’t need to give you an explanation on how to do this one, but we’ll have a quick recap. Have your partner get on the hands and knees (or any position that is comfortable for them from behind) and let them guide themselves onto the dildo. Ensuring they have full control of this position will enable you both to find the right speed and depth.

Backdoor man – This is the perfect position for the first time or beginner users as all control is on the person being penetrated. If you’re the one wearing the strap-on, then get yourself in a sitting position, on a chair or bed etc., then let your partner guide themselves on onto the dildo from behind so they sit on you (like a chair). You can switch this around by sitting on a chair and letting your partner straddle you, keeping you close and face to face.

Reverse cowgirl – Another position that gives the penetrated partner all the power. Just like the original, the person wearing will like flat on their back while the other sits on the strap-on facing away from the other. This position gives deeper penetration so allow the control to be in the penetrated partners hands.

Best strap-on choices

Strap-on harnesses

BASICS Strap-On Harness Kit with 2 Dildos

The Basics strap-on kit is perfect for beginners; it comes with two jelly-like dildoes that are interchangeable for your own experience, as well as having three different sized O-rings adjustments. The O- rings come in 1.25, 1.75 and 2 inches, so you can use other attachments once you start to explore more and you develop your strap-on skills, these can be changed easily by buttons clasps. The harness is easy to use, relatively comfortable, and easily adjusted to fit UK sizes between 4-34. Once fitted correctly you shouldn’t have any movement, and it should feel secure against your pelvis. The dildos are designed to mimic the feel of a real penis, with a textured shaft and realistic head, to give you the ultimate pleasurable experience. You have a choice of two sizes as the dildos are 6 and 8 inches in size, so you can pick the dildo to suit your mood. Phthalates free and made from PVC.

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Lifelike Lover Realistic Pleasures Strap-On Dildo Kit

If you’re new to the idea of bringing a strap-on into the bedroom, but still unsure of what you both want from using once, then picking up a kit that has a bit of everything is an excellent place to start. The lifelike lover kit has three different dildos to pick from, each one different in size, shape, and texture (one of which vibrates) so you can find the right one for you both. You have a choice between the 6inches vibrating dildo which has three speeds and seven patterns to offer; you have a 6inches slimline dildo which is perfect anal play, as well as an 8inches realistic dildo. Each dildo has a suction cup bottom to ensure it stays perfectly in place on the harness, so you don’t have to put an end to your play. This incredible kit also comes with three O-rings that are interchangeable so you can work your way through other sized dildos if you wish. The harness is easily adjusted to fit up to a 72-inch waist and fits comfortably against the pelvis once fitted corrected. Phthalates free.

Lovehoney Unisex Strap-On Harness Briefs

If you’ve picked yourself up a harnessed strap-on kit and found that it isn’t as comfortable as you’d imagined, or you want something that offers more coverage, then you can pick yourself up some harnessed knickers. These are stretchy, comfy and still flirty, giving you that sexy control, with comfort. You attach your dildo as you would in a standard harness, through an O-ring with clasps, and its held in the same place. These briefs are only usable with 1.5 inch O-ring dildos. Dildos not included. Hand washable.

Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with 3 Realistic Dildos

Forget pick ‘n’ mix, its now time for pick-a-penis with this fantastic crotchless harness and dildo kit. Pick between 5, 6, and 7 inches each one with its own individual design, allowing for an array of pleasure. To start off is the 5 Inch slimline dildo, which is perfect for beginners or anal play, with its delicate, realistic ridges that give off waves of pleasure. The second dildo is the 6-inch realistic dildo that gives you that familiar feeling of the real thing. And lastly is the mighty seven inched curved beast, that hits those G and P spots we’re all after. This unisex harnessed brief set is perfect for ensuring you both get the pleasure you deserve, allowing access via its crotchless opening. Make sure you use generous amounts of water-based lube to provide easy insertion and prolonged life of the dildos.

Strap-on attachment dildos

King Cock Girthy Ultra Realistic Black Suction Cup Dildo

If you’re looking for an upgrade from the first dildos you get in your kits, or if you just more experienced and after something with a little more kick, then the king cock is the right choice. This 8.5 inches girthy god will not leave you unsatisfied, attach to your strap-on harness via an O-ring and let the fun begin. With realistic veins and a bulbous head, every stroke will leave you feeling orgasmic. Make sure you use plenty of water-based lubricants to heighten your pleasurable experience. This dildo is latex and phthalates free, as well as being submersible, use the suction cup base on a wall or harnessed for shower time play.

Doc Johnson The Slim Silicone Dildo

Size doesn’t matter when it comes to the slim Doc Johnson dildo. This high quality, silicone dildo is curved to give you ultimate pleasure and massage your G-spot or P-spot, until you climax. Although its only 5.5 inches in length and 3.5 inches in circumference you still won’t want to put it down. Perfect for beginners and anal play because of its slimline design that slips in with ease once you’ve added some water-based lubricant. The flat base will fit in your harness with ease using a 1.5inch O-ring attachment, allowing you to enjoy every inch of this dildo. This dildo is latex and phthalates free.


Lifelike Lover Ultra Realistic Double Penetrator Suction Cup Dildo

Two’s dildos are better than one, and now you get to see for yourself. The lifelike Lover double is so realistic; you’ll struggle to tell them apart from the real thing. One Dildo is 6 inches in length, while the other is 5 inches in length, letting you pick which one you want where. Each dildo is beautifully detailed with veins, ripples, and a strong head, just like the real deal, ensuring you get the most from your double penetration. The suction base allows for handsfree alone play by attaching the dildos to a surface but also allows for partnered strap-on play due to a base that is O-ring compatible. Made from silky PVC that slides in with a handy helping of lubricant. Phthalates free.

Vac U strap-ons

Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock Luxe Harness with Plug and O-Rings

A new type of harness is on the scene, and that is the Doc Jonson Vac U. What sets this aside from the standard harness is that the U vac harness attaches your dildos by a special plug, that sits inside a specially designed dildo. Because this is a new style, not all dildos are compatible, but luckily for you, the Doc Johnson Vac U lock Luxe also comes with O-ring attachments, meaning you can use all your other gems with this harness too. The harnessed straps can be adjusted to fit UK sizes 4-32, and the padded base sits comfortably against your pelvis. This set comes with three O-ring adjustments in sizes 1.5, 2, and 2.5 inches.

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Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock Crystal Jellies Dildo Set

If there were a one set to rule them all, then it would be the beautiful bundle by Doc Johnson. With an array of dildos and accessories to fit every mood, you can tell that this is a set that has your wildest fantasies in mind. The Doc Johnson set comes with; four dildos, each has a different size and texture, lubricant, toy cleaner, refresher, Plug with pad and snaps as well as a suction cup base, and a harness. The first dildo is a slimline 6.5 inched delight, the second is an 8.25 inched prober, thirdly is an eight inched dildo with balls, and lastly is the 8.5 inched classic dildo. Each one is rippled, or carved to give you the ultimate climax. This set also comes with three O-rings, so you don’t need to throw out your old dildos, now you get to enjoy all the different types, with just one harness. You can easily adjust your harness to fit up to 69 Inches. The lubricant is water-based to maintain the life of your fantastic new additions. Made from TPE, PP, and PVC.

Doc Johnson Bust It Ejaculating Realistic Dildo with Vac-U-Lock 7 Inch

For some people the feeling of deep penetration is what gets them off, for others, its the feeling of their partner ejaculating, so why not combine both? This dildo is the perfect companion to your fantasies, but also perfect for people with erectile dysfunction as it mimics the real thing. The nut busting dildo has 7 inches of insertable length that is ribbed with waves and a bulbous head for that intense sensation of a real penis. It comes with its very own sperm formula that you add water to, to give you a lifelike sperm replacement they call Nut Butter. The bust attaches to your Doc Johnson Vac U harness like all the other, but its plugged base, as well as a suction cup for added security and to use during solo play. Nut butter contains Water, Dimethicone, Propylene Glycol, Dimethiconol, Xanthan Gum, Hydroxyethylcellulose, Colloidal Silver. Made from PVC so make sure you use plenty of water-based lubricant for your play. Latex and phthalates free.

Hollow strap-ons

Lovehoney Perfect Partner Unisex Hollow 10 Function Vibrating Strap-On 8 Inch

Bringing a buzz to the bedroom for both of you is the hollow vibration strapon by Lovehoney. Another great toy to add to your collection because of its design and ability to bring you both to your pleasurable highs in no time. You can enjoy 8 inches of insertable pleasure, while your partner enjoys 6 inches of hollow pleasure. You can pick between three speeds and seven patterns of vibrations you can flick through with its push button, to get the most from your buzzing play time. The dildo is designed to copy the feel of a real penis, with veins and lifelike top. The harness is elasticated to fit comfortably around the wearer’s waist, with its padded base and supportive straps that come up from the inside of the leg through to the back of the harness. This is a great addition if your partner has erectile dysfunction, due to the dildo being hollow, it allows for more intimate play between you both. Made from PVC so make sure you use plenty of water-based lubricant. Phthalates free.

Fetish Fantasy Unisex Big Daddy Hollow Strap-On 8 Inch

The big daddy has arrived, and he’s arrived with style, leaving everyone in shock with its almighty 8 inches. The big daddy is a toy you won’t forget, with its size and design that’s enough to get your attention without even using. The harness is elasticated to fit a waist of 27-42 inches, which is roughly a UK size of 10-22, the back of the harness is simple in design that sits between the buttocks. Once you have your harness on you can side the dildo onto your penis as the dildo is hollow and can fit up to 6 inches inside of it, then attach it securely with an O-ring to your harness. As the big daddy can be removed from the harness its also great for use during solo play or with other harnesses. Although it doesn’t have the lifelike design like some of the others, it does have an enlarged head as well as being made from rubber which allows it to bend into all the right spots. Phthalates free.

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Doc Johnson Unisex Strappy Hollow Penis Extender 5 Inch

Long gone are the days when erectile dysfunction took away some of that intimacy between you and your partner, now you can get all that closeness back by getting yourself a hollow strap-on. What it lacks in design, it makes up for in pleasure; once your partner slips this on you’ll be counting down the minutes until you can use it again. It is also perfect to use even if you don’t have a penis, and you’re entirely new to using strap-ons due to its unintimidating size and design. The waist harness is adjustable fitting between 25-46 inches, which is roughly UK dress sizes 8-26. It has an insertable length of 4.75 inches, and an internal length of 5.5 inches. Latex and phthalates free.

Double strap-ons

Tantus Feeldoe More Vibrating Strapless Strap-On Dildo 7.5 Inch

Get closer to your partner, without all the straps with the strapless strap-on by Tantus. With its bulb-like ends and vibrating shaft that is crafted to give you both nothing but pleasure, you’ll soon know why it’s a top telling toy. The shaft has 7 inches of insertable silicone length to caress your G or P spot, and once you slip that bullet vibrator inside the shaft, you’ll feel those pleasurable pulsations throughout. The bulbed end sits perfectly inside your vagina, giving handsfree play so that those hands can get up to something more pleasing. Between the bulb and shaft are rippled groves so you labia can get some of that action as well. The bullet vibrator can easily be removed if you’d prefer to use them on some of your other pleasure spots and is controlled by its base push button with a simple on/off function. This toy is submersible for bath time fun. Latex and phthalates free. Made from silicone so ensure you use plenty of water-based lubricant.

Fetish Fantasy Elite Penetrix Double Dildo Vibrator 6 Inch

Double the dildo, double the orgasm, that’s the only way to do it from now on. This double vibrating will leave you both in a world of pleasure once it’s strapped in and at use. One dildo sits inside the vagina while the second can go wherever you please. The first is four inches in length and curved to hit that sweet spot, and the second is six inches in length, again curved to get those crucial spots. Joining the dildos together is a textured panel that adds frictions and pleasure for the wearer when sat comfortably inside a harness using a 1.5 O-ring. If that wasn’t enough, this double dildo offers double the fun in vibrations by having two separate motors, so you both feel the three speeds and four vibration patterns it has to offer, all controlled by its easy wired remote. Use with water-based lubricant to feel the full potential this mighty toy has to offer. This dildo is submersible so you can bring the pleasure to the tub. Latex and phthalates free.

Fun Factory ShareVibe Rechargeable Vibrating Strapless Strap-On Dildo

Another fantastic toy by Fun Factory has hit the shelves, and like its others, you won’t be left disappointed. Its shorter shaft shits perfectly inside the vagina, tickling you G-spot and sending waves of pleasure to your clitoris while you pleasure your partner with the longer shaft. The longer shaft has an insertable length of 5.5 inches, which is curved to send the vibrators from the bullet up throughout your body. Work your way through 5 vibration settings, each controlled by a push button on the bullet that is inserted inside the dildo. This toy is USB rechargeable so you can take this wondrous toy on your weekends away. This toy is made from body safe, medical grade silicone and is 100% waterproof for aquatic play. Latex and phthalates free.

Cock ring strap-ons

Double Diver Vibrating Double Penetration Cock Ring

Get twice the fun for the price of one with a toy with everyone’s pleasure in mind. This double penetration cock ring will ensure you both end the night with a bang by the spectacular vibrations its has to offer. Perfect for beginners as you can pick between three patterns of vibrations to suit your mood, as well as a four inched rippled shaft that allows for even more pleasure. The hypoallergenic cock ring can stretch between 1.25 inches and 4 inches to give a comfortable fit for all sizes. The double diver is submersible for aquatic adventures, making bath time all that more enjoyable. This toy is latex and phthalates free and made from safe skin rubber.

Lovehoney Double Fun Beaded Vibrating Double Penetration Strap-On

Double up on pleasure with this double penetration strap-on. Every inch of it is designed to give you both orgasmic highs and leave you wanting more. The textured bullet vibrator sits perfectly on the cock ring to ensure you get those famous love honey waves of pleasure with two speeds and five patterns to pick from. The shaft is beaded and 6 inches in length to give the users uncomparable pleasure while the cock and ball ring provides the wearer with stamina to prolong the experience. Add generous amounts of water-based lubricant to gain the full potential of the Double fun strap-on. This strap-on is submersible for double penetrative bathtime play. Latex and phthalates free.

Doc Johnson Platinum The Double Dip Silicone Cock Ring and Probe

If you’re new to double penetration, or just want something not as deep or if you want something without the vibrations then picking up the double dip is the right choice. What this toy lacks in design it makes up for in pleasure; sometimes you don’t need all the fancy gadgets to get off. This cock ring can go from 1.5 inches up to 3 inches to fit like a glove regardless of girth and provide a longer lasting erection. The flexible probe has beads that build up in size to give an ultimate climax as well as being beginner friendly in size as it has 3.45 inches in insertable length. Made from silicone to ensure you use a generous amount of water-based lubricant. Latex and phthalates free.