Bondage Guide For Beginners

Why is a bondage guide needed, I hear you ask? Since Fifty Shades has come out, we’ve seen a surge in sex toys being bought, as well as sexual fantasies being openly spoken about. Before then, it was a crude subject that no one really spoke about or exposed their thoughts. But thankfully, people have started to realise that it’s not as sordid as once thought. With BDSM becoming widely popular, we’re here to help you make sure that your fantasies are conducted safely, because who wants a trip to A&E with the embarrassment of having to explain to your doctor what exactly caused the injury? This bondage guide comprises of a few tips to ensure that your late night lusts for bondage are done incident free.

1. Communicate

Bondage can be a dark place, especially if done incorrectly, so make sure that you keep communication your biggest priority. Talk to your partner prior to getting in the mood, so you can see what types of things you want to try, and what safe word to use just in case it gets a little too much for you. Try to use something that you wouldn’t usually say during Sex, like Cherry for example. Because using words like ‘No’ or ‘Stop’, especially when participating in BDSM, can easily be ignored if your partner is taking on the dominant role.

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2. Do It With Someone You Trust

We can’t stress this enough. Please don’t put yourself in danger by doing this with someone you barely know, especially if this is your first time. Your safety is a priority. Don’t feel pressured to do it if you’re not entirely confident in them. Don’t let the fun turn into abuse. You have every right to say no, and say when you want it to stop.

3. Shop Around And Research

It doesn’t have to be all about whips and chains (well to start with). Find out what exactly you find most thrilling about this, and start with that. Even if you want to be whipped, get your partner to begin with some light spanking, that way you’ll be able to find your limits easier. Head over to LoveHoney, they have a brilliant Bondage section including kits and individual items. Make sure you read up on the products and how to use them before you get into it. It would be complete mood killer if your partner spent half an hour trying to tie a knot for you only to be able to slip out if it after one arch of your back! Before you decide to take the next step into something please make sure you do all your correct research. Everything you do must be done safely and not to cause any severe injuries to you or your partner.

4. Get A Blindfold

This one probably doesn’t need to be in a bondage guide, due to it being the most popular and widely used technique, nevertheless, we added it anyway. This is the perfect way to ease yourself into bondage. Using a blindfold will heighten your sense of touch. Using it during foreplay is fantastic, you can lie there and let them tease you, which your partner will love, and it will also help you settle into the role. Another way to add to the heightened touch is using different texture objects, along with hot or cold items. Try getting your partner to hold an ice cube with his lips and run it over your body, you will love it! Another good one if warm chocolate sauce, and have them clean up it up with their tongue. Had enough of the blindfold? It can also work well as a gag!

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5. Keep It Simple To Begin With

We’ve touched on this slightly but simplicity really is key when starting. As mentioned before Love Honey do a great bondage kit which you don’t have to use straight away, but can just be there for you to familiarise yourself with. Don’t feel like you have to use those chains straight away. Start off by merely restraining one another by using your hands, or just holding on to your headboard, so you still have that freedom if you do think it’s not entirely for you. Using massage oils is another really great way to start, just by letting them decide where they’ll be massaging you is really fun. Also try being blindfolded when they do it!

6. Switch Roles

You don’t always have to be the dom or the sub. Switching it up can be equally, if not more exciting, as you get to try something completely new, and find out more about what you and your partner enjoy.

Bondage Guide: Closing Thoughts

If there’s anything you take away from this bondage guide is that you and your partner must remain safe, and that you don’t do things that you don’t really want to do. Being safe should be the priority for both of you, and will enable you to carry on with those whips, chains, and gags all you want!